a title or his time

This question pops up often. I still have yet to figure out why so many things go wrong when a woman wants that title. (Babe, Boo thang, Girlfriend, Wifey) The deal is that we are so blinded because we want a title. What does the title really mean? What does it mean to you?

I have a number 1 guy in my life. He is not my boyfriend, but a man that I would do anything for. The time we spend together is more important than how much time we spent together. When I realized that I loved this man, it drove me crazy. (We women go crazy on the wrong things!). I wanted to let him know how I felt. Then I was hoping that he is feeling the same. Maybe we could get together or get serious. Then I thought we are both in different places in our lives. His friendship means more to me than anything else. I don’t need a title. So, why I am going crazy again?

Here is the deal. I thought back on the time shared, endless conversation, all the laughter, intimate moments (not sex YOU PERVS!) and then of course I smiled. So then I realized that made me happy. What we have is good enough for me right now. Yes, I have questioned his feelings before. (Something else to drive a woman crazy) Looking back I realized that it's not necessary. Actions speak louder than words. Going back, I thought about his actions, I realized that he honestly loves/ cares for me. Of course he knows how I feel about him. (Knowing me... how could he not know?) WOMEN!

So here I go... why do I need a title? I don't. For some reason a title tends to add more pressure than necessary. I know we all want to be loved or maybe you just want to be "in the know". Maybe you are fooled by the people who pretend to be happy and post pictures all over MySpace, Facebook, Twitter. LOL. (Who doesn’t want the world to know they are happy, RIGHT?) When it is truly love... you will just know. You know when the other person is special. If your connection with a person isn't that strong or maybe you're just blinded by your friend asking when will it become "OFFICIAL" (Note to self: some friends are so miserable that question you to prove they are better. NOT YOUR FRIENDS) you just might be his #1 girl and your friends should not worry about it if you are happy. So, this guy & I are not in a place where we are ready for a relationship. Don't get me wrong I love him and would probably say yes if he proposed RIGHT NOW. Not the plan though. I love and respect him enough to accept his choices in life. The deal is love takes time and there are other things I need to focus on. I just need his love and support and in return he will get mine.

To my Ladies who are searching for a title. Go back to the time shared not the amount of time spent. Make sure the guy you with isn't just a sex partner that you occasionally go out with. (Lust can definitely cloud your vision) If you are happy then enjoy your happiness and just know that it will happen when it’s suppose to.

In the mean time, Enjoy Self Love, Respect & Honor!