RIP: Stephanie Moseley & Early Hayes

It breaks my heart about violent domestic situations. Dancer Stephanie Moseley, had her life take by her husband Earl Hayes. Stephanie was knows for "Hit The Floor" as well as her back up dancing for Pop stars Chris Brown and Britney Spears. Earl Hayes was the son of the late  Issac Hayes.
  The couple were found dead in their Los Angeles apartment. It was told that boxer ,Floyd Mayweather Jr, may have been on facetime with Hayes while he was going to confront his wife, Moseley, of cheating.

This is such a heartbreaking tragedy.

My condolences to the Moseley and Hayes family.

Wedding: Solange and Alan Ferguson

Congratulations to Solange and her long time beau Alan Ferguson. 

Solange & Alan's regal wedding were filled with shades of cream and white.   

I'm a huge fan of Solange and her style. Her wedding images are seriously #breakingtheinternet.  Sista girl have seriously made best wedding images of the decade! Sorry Kimye! 

Beyonce & Ms. Tina Knowlege beautifully placed along the side of the beautiful Solange.

Momma Tina... You better WERK HONEY!  This woman looks amazing!

Check out the back of this jumpsuit! #breaktheinternet

Solange has came to state her claim!  

The newlyweds yall!

Solange and her son grooving to "No Flex Zone" for the Mother Son dance.

LOVE LOVE LOVE these moments!

Beyonce, Jay-Z & Blue Ivy were there, of course!

The outfit changes!

Congratulations to you both! 

Just because...

Relationships are require work. 

Create wonderful memories. 

Remember No one is perfect.

Be vulnerable.

Be good to love because love will be good to you.

#loveandlight

#beyonce #jayz

 No matter what happens... 

you must support each other.

Does Size Matter?

I am totally convinced that are a plethora of great men out there that are single because they are packing an average or below average penis. Yes I said it! PENIS! Johnson! Schlong!  whatever you want to call it! It's all the same.

Some of us women want a Mandingo warrior prince! Someone who can be EVERYTHING and packing girth beyond the average man's beliefs.  Word on the street is that those Mandingo warriors are the jerk faces A-holes that make women feel like shit. I've seen women go crazy once they finally get the "big one". The talks of him reaching all the right "spots".  Truth is Mandingo is trying to get his numbers up. We're just a notch on his belt of coital pleasure.

Well ladies let me tell you that all of this can end! The moment you decide to give up being a size queen.  I know you're giving me that Nene Leaks looks right now. Let's be honest. There are good men out there that  know how to work their average size packing. 

There is a man out there that may not be everything you want... but trust me when I say that he will be everything that you NEED!

#thankmelater

Marriage Advise I wish I would have had

MARRIAGE ADVICE I WISH I WOULD HAVE HAD (Before Going Thru My Divorce). - Carlo Calhoun

I just wanted to share something that a friend shared on his Facebook page. I am not married but I love to hear what other people have learned.

SNICKER RICK HELPS:
MARRIAGE ADVICE I WISH I WOULD HAVE HAD (Before Going Thru My Divorce):

Obviously, I’m not a relationship expert. But there’s something about going thru a divorce that gives me perspective of things I wish I would have done different…After losing a woman that I loved, here’s the advice I wish I would have had...

1 NEVER STOP COURTING. Never stop dating. NEVER EVER take that woman for granted. When you asked her to marry you, you promised to be that man that would OWN HER HEART and to fiercely protect it. This is the most important and sacred treasure you will ever be entrusted with. SHE CHOSE YOU. Never forget that, and NEVER GET LAZY in your love.

2 PROTECT YOUR OWN HEART. Just as you committed to being the protector of her heart, you must guard your own with the same vigilance. Love yourself fully, love the world openly, but there is a special place in your heart where no one must enter except for your wife. Keep that space always ready to receive her and invite her in, and refuse to let anyone or anything else enter there.

3 FALL IN LOVE OVER and OVER and OVER again. You will constantly change. You’re not the same people you were when you got married, and in five years you will not be the same person you are today. Change will come, and in that you have to re-choose each other every day. SHE DOESN’T HAVE TO STAY WITH YOU, and if you don’t take care of her heart, she may give that heart to someone else or seal you out completely, and you may never be able to get it back. Always fight to win her love just as you did when you were courting her.

4 ALWAYS SEE THE BEST in her. Focus only on what you love. What you focus on will expand. If you focus on what bugs you, all you will see is reasons to be bugged. If you focus on what you love, you can’t help but be consumed by love. Focus to the point where you can no longer see anything but love, and you know without a doubt that you are the luckiest man on earth to have this woman as your wife.

5 IT’S NOT YOUR JOB TO CHANGE OR FIX HER… your job is to love her as she is with no expectation of her ever changing. And if she changes, love what she becomes, whether it’s what you wanted or not.

6 TAKE FULL ACCOUNTABILITY for your own emotions: It’s not your wife’s job to make you happy, and she CAN’T make you sad. You are responsible for finding your own happiness, and through that your joy will spill over into your relationship and your love.

7 NEVER BLAME your wife. If YOU get frustrated or angry at her, it is only because it is triggering something inside of YOU. They are YOUR emotions, and your responsibility. When you feel those feelings take time to get present and to look within and understand what it is inside of YOU that is asking to be healed. You were attracted to this woman because she was the person best suited to trigger all of your childhood wounds in the most painful way so that you could heal them… when you heal yourself, you will no longer be triggered by her, and you will wonder why you ever were.

8 Allow your woman to JUST BE. When she’s sad or upset, it’s not your job to fix it, it’s your job to HOLD HER and let her know it’s ok. Let her know that you hear her, and that she’s important and that you are that pillar on which she can always lean. The feminine spirit is about change and emotion and like a storm her emotions will roll in and out, and as you remain strong and nonjudgmental she will trust you and open her soul to you… DON’T RUN AWAY WHEN SHE’S UPSET. Stand present and strong and let her know you aren’t going anywhere. Listen to what she is really saying behind the words and emotion.

9 BE SILLY. Don’t take yourself so damn seriously. Laugh. And make her laugh. Laughter makes everything else easier.

10 FILL HER SOUL EVERYDAY. Learn her love languages and the specific ways that she feels important and validated and CHERISHED. Ask her to create a list of 10 THINGS that make her feel loved and memorize those things and make it a priority every day to make her feel like a queen.

11 BE PRESENT. Give her not only your time, but your focus, your attention and your soul. Do whatever it takes to clear your head so that when you are with her you are fully WITH HER. Treat her as you would your most valuable client. She is.

12 BE WILLING TO TAKE HER SEXUALLY, to carry her away in the power of your masculine presence, to consume her and devour her with your strength, and to penetrate her to the deepest levels of her soul. Let her melt into her feminine softness as she knows she can trust you fully.

13 DON’T BE AN IDIOT…. And don’t be afraid of being one either. You will make mistakes and so will she. Try not to make too big of mistakes, and learn from the ones you do make. You’re not supposed to be perfect, just try to not be too stupid.

14 GIVE HER SPACE. The woman is so good at giving and giving, and sometimes she will need to be reminded to take time to nurture herself. Sometimes she will need to fly from your branches to go and find what feeds her soul, and if you give her that space she will come back with new songs to sing…. (Okay, getting a little too poetic here, but you get the point. Tell her to take time for herself, ESPECIALLY after you have kids. She needs that space to renew and get re-centered, and to find herself after she gets lost in serving you, the kids and the world.)

15 BE VULNERABLE… you don’t have to have it all together. Be willing to share your fears and feelings, and quick to acknowledge your mistakes.

16 BE FULLY TRANSPARENT. If you want to have trust you must be willing to share EVERYTHING… Especially those things you don’t want to share. It takes courage to fully love, to fully open your heart and let her in when you don't know if she will like what she finds. Part of that courage is allowing her to love you completely, your darkness as well as your light. DROP THE MASK. If you feel like you need to wear a mask around her, and show up perfect all the time, you will never experience the full dimension of what love can be.

17 NEVER STOP GROWING TOGETHER… The stagnant pond breeds malaria, the flowing stream is always fresh and cool. Atrophy is the natural process when you stop working a muscle, just as it is if you stop working on your relationship. Find common goals, dreams and visions to work towards.

18 DON’T WORRY ABOUT MONEY. Money is a game, find ways to work together as a team to win it. It never helps when teammates fight. Figure out ways to leverage both persons strength to win.

19 FORGIVE IMMEDIATELY and focus on the future rather than carrying weight from the past. Don’t let your history hold you hostage. Holding onto past mistakes that either you or she makes, is like a heavy anchor to your marriage and will hold you back. FORGIVENESS IS FREEDOM. Cut the anchor loose and always choose love.

20 ALWAYS CHOOSE LOVE. ALWAYS CHOOSE LOVE. ALWAYS CHOOSE LOVE. In the end, this is the only advice you need. If this is the guiding principle through which all your choices is governed, there is nothing that will threaten the happiness of your marriage. Love will always endure.

In the end MARRIAGE isn’t about happily ever after. It’s about work. And a commitment to grow together and a willingness to continually invest in creating something that can endure eternity. Through that work, the happiness will come.

Marriage is life, and it will bring ups and downs. Embracing all of the cycles and learning to learn from and love each experience will bring the strength and perspective to keep building, one brick at a time.

These are lessons I learned the hard way. These are lessons I learned too late.

But these are lessons I am learning and committed in carrying forward. Truth is, I LOVED being married, and in time, I will get married again, and when I do, I will build it with a foundation that will endure any storm and any amount of time.

If you are reading this and find wisdom in my pain, share it those young husbands whose hearts are still full of hope, and with those couples you may know who may have forgotten how to love. One of those men may be like I was, and in these hard earned lessons perhaps something will awaken in him and he will learn to be the man his lady has been waiting for.

The woman that told him 'I do', and trusted her life with him, has been waiting for this man to step up.

If you are reading this and your marriage isn’t what you want it to be, take 100% responsibility for YOUR PART in marriage, regardless of where your spouse is at, and commit to applying these lessons while there is time.

MEN - THIS IS YOUR CHARGE: Commit to being an EPIC LOVER. There is no greater challenge, and no greater prize. Your woman deserves that from you.

Be the type of husband your wife can’t help but brag about.

Carlo Calhoun.

Thank you for your insight. I hope this helps someone who needs it. 

It's Not

Love is not

• Its not based on your superficial wants. 
• It not based on your friends thoughts.
• Not to tell the world that you have it but tell the well how you are keeping it.
• No one cares who is "wearing the pants" in your relationship. 
• What matters is that you have it and that gives hope to others in search of it.

Word of the Day: BAE

For all of those who use the word BAE or  #bae

Lets visit Urban dictionary's meanings:

Acronyn: B.A.E.

                Before Anyone Else


Well here is translation for you!

Danish for POOP!

New ways to use Bae?

• You aint BAE!
• This is some bullbae!
• Did you go bae today?
• You aint bae!
• you little bae!

I can go on... but you get the point! 

Quote of the Day from J.A. Konrath

“If you can quit, quit. If you can't quit, stop complaining - this is what you chose.” 
― J.A. Konrath

This quote may hit you hard but sometimes we need a hard hit. Of reality that is. In life we have choices. We can chose good or bad. Let's face it. NO one is perfect nor will we ever be perfect. We were born into this no so perfect world to learn from our mistakes and make better choices. The quote is saying to stop dwelling on your mistakes. Make peace with your past and move forward. At the end of the day, it doesn't matter who did what or how they did it. Its how you chose to handle it.

Peace & Love

In a Situationship?

I cause a glimpse of a meme that hit home for me. Let's face it! These memes can be brutally honest. Half the time we are not looking for the truth but looking for our fantasy to become the truth. So the meme says

 "People arent even dating anymore, just talking, catching feelings, sleeping together and end up in situationships" 

One might ask "what is a situationship"? Well that's what the Urban Dictionary is for!


Situationships: any problematic relationship characterized by one or more unresolved, interpersonal conflicts. usually confused with dating.

It's time you ended the situationship, dumped his sorry ass and found a guy who you're actually happy to be around.

I'm sure you've had at least one experience like this at some point in your life. It seems as though, no one wants to define their situation anymore. People no one feels as though a title means anything. Who made up these rules? Just when you thought that being old fashioned was too difficult... well during this day and age it's even more difficult. All of you young people only want to have sex until you find perfect sex with someone you think maybe the one. The older you get the more you realize that you've been doing it all wrong. The best sex is with someone you've been emotionally, mentally and spiritually attached. If not you may as well paid for a prostitute!  Sex was meant to be the glue in your marriage. It create a spiritual bond between two people. When these two people have no connection then you are just hanging. 

Let's face it. If you're just hanging and you will be left just hanging. You know what happens when you hang from nothing? You end up hurt.

Quality vs Quantity, of time.

I used to think it was cute to speak to someone every morning. Who doesn't want to be thought of every morning. Don't get me wrong now. There could be butterflies in the air and everything could be wonderful, but then I realized driving is my moment of peace before I get to hell. Work that is.
 I don't know about you but I need that 30 minutes for myself.  If I don't have my fix of praise & worship music I begin to get annoyed with the people who call me so damn early in the morning. Is that wrong?
Its the moment you realized that it's about the quality about the time spent with someone... Not the quantity of time spent talking. I can talk a persons ear off. 

If we make every moment count then who needs small talk?
If we made the most of the time spent then we wouldn't be rushing to speak to each other every minute possible.

Poetry

It replays in my mind
Each time more intense
Each time more passionate
Each time more fulfilled
Each time I crave...
Every second
Every moment
As if it’s the first time.

Happy New Year! 2014 is here!

Happy New Year!


I know normally you're planning your new years resolutions, wedding planning, vacation planning or maybe even still trying to catch up on current goals. What ever that maybe I wish you the most prosperous new year of all. May you receive an abundance of love, peace and joy.