Kim Kardashian... REALLY?

I'm still trying to figure out why Kim Kardashian is in my news feed. So what she was married. So what she's filing for divorce. This is not her first or last pubicity stunt. Its not like she plans on donating that money to a local charity or homeless shelter. Why is SHE considered famous again? Oh right, she "starred" in a sex tape with R&B singer Ray J (aka Brandy's brother). Porn stars dont get that much credit. WTF?

Show me REAL NEWS!

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A Wedding to Remember

On Sunday 10/23 I witnessed the union of one of my closest friends (Tiffanie) and the love of her life (Dante). It was all that you would have expected in a wedding. Tears of joy, lots of laughs, words of wisdom,  things that make the best of times. I've seen lots of  weddings but this was special. The look on the grooms face was priceless. I can't imagine the emotion he was feeling at that time. From the moment Tiffanie walked down that aisle to when their hands embraced. The anticipation of this day was far beyond their belief. Marrying the person of your dreams always seemed to good to be true. In this case, its was definitely true. Not only could you see it, but it was felt throughout the ceremony. The room was filled with love and passion. The last time i felt like this, my son was born. I love a wedding that show the true character of people. I mean those really great qualities that remind  you that are in a room full of great friends that are ready to make great memories. It was an honor to witness and share this wonderful day with Tiffanie & Dante

I can definitely say that this wedding brought out the best in me...
I saw love and instantly fell in love with Love again....

Congratulations Tiffanie & Dante. I wish you both an infinite amount of love, joy and happiness. May your union bless and touch the hearts of others.

No Strings Attached

Lovers or Friends/ Lovers & Friends? To lots guys the perfect relationship is sexual. To lots of women it not only about sex but its emotional. In my opinion this “homie-lover-friend” situation can work. What I can’t tell you is the length of time it can work. That part is actually up to you. Just always remember why you’ve decided this route. Its perfect when you need companionship but not ready to put in all the effort of a relationship. You get all the benefits of a relationship, minus the emotional part, family gatherings, and of course the complications. It’s a mutual understanding between 2 adults. There must be some rules and regulations. Of course you must be upfront and be willing to communicate. Consider a time frame. I doubt you’d want to have this type of relationship forever. Have a plan if one person becomes emotionally involved AND  know how much you can handle emotionally. We all have limits so get to know yours.

This may sound like perfection but Let’s keep it real though, every relationship has its ups & downs.


Other names: Cutty buddy, cut buddy, sex partner, homie lover friend, friends with benefits.

RAIN!!!!

I love the rain for so many reasons. Every thing about rain just screams ROMANCE! It’s a great time to get cozy with your favorite person, play those special rainy day games, and indulge your favorite comfort foods. Imagine cuddling up under a blanket next to your honey while sipping you favorite hot drink while watching the rain fall. Convenient way to sneak in some conversations and enjoy a little Q-T.  So, I know I’m not the only one that buys board games and just store them at the top of the closet? You know the ones we all forget about. (shakes my head) Dust those games off and have some friendly competition of: Scrabble, Monopoly, Jenga, Taboo, Catch phrase and many others to choose from. Not to worry if you don’t have any of these games, just head over to Target, Walmart or Kmart and invest. You never know when they can come in handy. Romance is simple and the possibilities endless. Don’t get discouraged… throw in a few candles... add some flowers… and of course some sweet nothings! Oh yea don’t forget a compliments! We women love to be complimented!

So if you’ved opt out for hot cocoa… make it fondue! Chill a bottle of Moscato D’Asti, cut up some fruit (banana, strawberries, mango, pineapple) even add in a few cubed pieces of Sara Lee’s Pound cake.
Its all romantic! Its all so simple!

Fall is here!

Get your honey and start planning those movie nights. Snuggle under a blanket or get his/her matching snuggies! Drink cups of hot cocoa topped with marshmallows or whipped cream!. I'm totally ready for a change of weather. The leaves turn beautiful shades of browns, yellows and gold. Walks in the park just became so much easier. Especially for those times when you just stop to embrace each other.

Fall temperatures are not too hot and not too cold. It is a reminder that Winter is coming!

IS THIS YOU TOO?

I’d be the first to admit that I’m afraid to fall in love. I’ve been there and I’m so thankful to have been loved and felt loved. I have up a thick ass wall that NO ONE can tear down but myself. Well I’m afraid so what do you actually expect? I try not to get to intimate with guys because I refuse to set myself up for emotional failure. I’ve realized that intimacy controls it all! Intimacy creates a bond between two people. That bond then becomes an emotional attachment. If there is no intimacy then I’ll never get attached. This works out so much better for me. No one has to like it but its really my choice. Most likely I’ll never get married (which is probably the reason I prefer to plan weddings). I like to be as realistic as possible with myself. I don’t have expectation of guys because that’s when people start to let you down. When your vision is blurred by love you tend to have unrealistic expectations of love and your partner. I have yet to understand why this happens but it happens EVERYDAY! Lack of communication can send your relationship issues OVERBOARD!

But who am I kidding? I can create a huge wall and pretend I’m the toughest person around. That doesn’t mean someone won’t come along and this imaginary wall (that I led myself to believe in) will have been long forgotten. Truth is I’m no different from everyone else that wants love and to feel loved. I have not given up on love and you shouldn’t either. This can be such a trial and error situation… Learn from your past mistakes. Makes change the necessary … whether is about you, your expectations or the characteristic you are looking for in a mate. Don’t be afraid to love. Try to open your heart to new possibilities. I wouldn’t want you to miss out on what can be the best thing ever.

Healing time

You need it! Just like any physical wound, you must give it time to heal. So what happens during this healing time? Everything! You love learn to love yourself more. Think about how you’ve changed in your past relationship. Just face it… we all change a little bit. Even if we don’t notice. Yourself time to heal. Don’t rush in to another relationship if you have not healed form the past. Its best to give yourself time to reprioritize, gather your goals you may forgotten about and get back on track with life as you know it. Keep friends and family around. Go out and have fun!