The Beginning: Pretty Great Huh?

The beginning is where it all starts.  (Well DUH right?) Its when it all seems perfect. Well this is because this is the moment you know nothing but what you've seen thus far. You're Flirting, telling jokes, and just having a good time. In the beginning you give each so much attention that it just fees good to know that someone has interest in you. After all, its been so long since anyone wanted to get to know you the way this person has been trying. Small talks turn into long talks. You've never thought something so simple can make you feel so good.

First text to that first phone call... to the first time you're hanging out.
When you think its nothing but it feels like something. Then its that moment you realized that "this something" is starting to feel great. Because these "Good morning honey" text messages are just some of the things that make you smile. Or when he moves that strand of hair behind your ears and remind you of how beautiful you are... As great as it feels, you eventually have to realize that the only way to progress is knowing that the other person feels the same.

Dear Someone New, I'm Always Thinking Of You!

Dear Someone New,

The past few months have taken me by surprise. I know I’m great at saying I’m not ready for anything serious. Sometimes I’m even great at showing it. I really don’t want it to seem like I’ve changed my mind overnight. I want to tell you that I’m ready to take a chance, but I don’t want to push you away.  I thought I wasn’t ready to open up but truth is, you’ve had me since our first conversation. I must admit that I’m amazed at our unlimited conversation topics. Sometimes it hard to believe that we have a lot in common.

-Hope you feel the way I do.

 

Have you ever felt this way? Like you’ve just had a reality check. Realizing that as much as you say  that you may not want a relationship, is as much as you want it? You never really realize it until you find yourself smiling with every text message or a random thought. Or get this… randomly END UP TALKING ABOUT THIS PERSON!  Key sign that says your heart has let someone in.

Hanging

Things are always good in the beginning. It seems like you have so much in common. You have moments where it feels or seems so obvious that you both are on the same page... you have so much in common...and then... the deal breaker. You know that moment where something is said and you're left wondering...WHAT WENT WRONG? Did I miss something? I thought it was going so well. It could have been going so well. And you could have so much in common, but lack of communication can leave you hanging.

Don't get left hanging. Find someone that's willing to communicate with you.
An open heart & mind also needs open communication.

Hello New Year! It's 2012!!!!

Happy New Year Everyone!!!

2011 is over... Let's start the year off leaving the past behind. Look for ways to stay positive and press forward.

The Wall, Part 2: Breaking it down

I believe the wall is there to help heal a broken heart. Its there to protect and nourish. It takes a special kind of person to break "the wall" down. When it happens, trust me you will have already forgotten all about it.

The Battle

Sometimes we do things to hurt ourselves and don’t even know it. We build this wall up to protect our feelings when actually all we end up doing it hurting ourselves. Its all trial and error but today I’ve learned my lesson. Sometimes you don’t want to be afraid of getting hurt so bad that you just push people away before anything develops. This way you wont hurt.

Well… TRUTH IS….

Doesn’t matter if you build a brick wall double plastered, sky scraper high, guarded by the best… it can vanish when you least expect. Your heart can open up, making its way to someone else … Now every thought you had to keep yourself sane now becomes a battle between heart & the mind.

A wise man once told me to let the heart be a heart. It does what it does best… it loves and let’s in love.

LOVE and let LOVE.

The Wall Part 1

For the past few years I’ve been protecting my heart, so that it wouldn’t feel that ache anymore.  I’ve been too afraid to open up.  It didn’t matter how perfect a guy could be; I’d manage to push him away. I thought all men wanted the same thing. If that was the case well I would have to want it too. It’s just not as fun if we both don’t want it.  I’m sure you can agree with that. I’ve come to realized that "the wall isn’t so bad." Or if I remind myself daily then eventually I would believe it.  I felt like it’s so much easier to think like a man and give them exactly what I thought they wanted. I’m upfront, open & honest. I don’t get emotionally involved.  Heck that Steve Harvey  book says  “Act like lady, think like a man”… well this is me.  Then one day … I was caught off guard.