Dont be afraid to move on

Are you holding on to the past? I know we are only human but I believe that we deserve to be happy. We tend to hold on to things, situations and relationships. Wouldn’t you let go if you knew that you had to let go of something because in order to received something better? But because we don’t know we allow fear to play a big role in our decisions.
We hold on possession, heirlooms, pictures and all those things that put us in the special place. This is great as long as you don’t visit that special place too often. You don’t want this to become a habit (I’ve totally been there). I know we can be creatures of habit but it doesn’t have to be that way. Keep these special items in safe places. I tend to revisit these things when I’m spring cleaning or maybe I’ve just found them on accident.
Are your past or current situations blocking you from receiving your blessings? We go through changes because this is how we are molded. Past and current situations are what make us the person we are today. Don’t be afraid to voice your opinion and thoughts. Don’t hold on but learn from these situations. The lesson that you learn will help determine how to move on from your situation.
Are you holding on by a string with your relationship? Are you constantly asking yourself why and how? Have you just become comfortable with your situation? You may feel defeated or like you have no other place where you want to share your feelings. This is totally an unhealthy situation. You are created a path of unhappiness. If you’ve tried all that you can to keep your relationship anew you have to look at the pros and cons. Not just for you but for your partner too. Relationship are a too way street. Sometimes we hold on because we don’t want to hurt the other person. I think it’s a little too late to think this way because you both are already suffering. We don't realize that we're holding on for the wrong reasons. At this pont it's not love anymore. It's just comfortable and easy.

Learn that its okay to let go. Let go. Learn to love freely. Learn to give love freely. Self love respect and honor. When you love yourself everything else will fall into place.

A legend has passed away.

Teena Marie reported dead on December 26, 2010, at 54 years young. Her music touched the hearts of R&B lovers all over. The woman can SANG! She has a powerful yet soulful voice. The first Teena song I heard was “Square Biz” and as I got older I listened to other hits and became a fan. Her music will definitely live on.
R.I.P Lady T

Below are some of my favorite Teena songs that I thought I’d share.

Merry Christmas!

It’s Christmas day and I’m feeling blessed. It’s time to make breakfast! Belgian waffles, veggie omelets , hash browns, fresh fruit, mimosas (Hot cocoa for my son of course) and my loving family to share this wonderful day with. Life is so short so enjoy today as if it were your last. Share love like never before and take great joy in all that you have today.

Happy Holidays everyone!

Self love

The root of a relationship starts with SELF. You must love yourself unconditionally before you can love someone else. How can you love someone if you are not sure how to love yourself, flaws and all? Just think about it. You must learn to love unselfishly. You can’t love someone and expect them to love you back. Love with out a limit. Keep giving love even if you feel as though you don’t received enough back. The truth is that love is always reciprocated. Even if its not how you expect to received it back. Love unconditionally. Let me say this louder for you… LOVE UNCONDITIONALLY! No matter what your expectation of a person learn to be happy for them and support. Its so much easier to teach others how to love you when already know what to do. And when you love yourself first, you love others freely. When self love becomes a habit, you glow. You then begin to understand true self worth and how to love unconditionally.

We all want to be loved in one way or another so love freely and unselfishly. Continuously share some form of affection and show someone you care.

“1Corithians 13:4-8
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away”

Romance

Does it exist? Welll techinally YES! romance is complex simplicity. Its so easy yet we make so hard. For me its the little things. A warm hug and a smile while gazing into each others eyes. (Sappy right?) But that's how simple it can be! Remember when dinner and a movie was the perfect date? I think it still is a perfect date. Today movies are the perfect GNO that turns into a great conversation topic. This is not about girls night though. This about lovers. Two people who share the same interest, their love for each other. If we love each other so much then how do we keep the romance alive? Its as simple as trying something new or just keeping it simple.

My romantic ideas:

• Candle lit dinner
• Chocolate fondue
• flowers and petals
• holding hands
• a walk in the park
• picnics... in the park or on the beach
• whispering sweet nothings (one of my favs)

Anything that makes you feel special is a romantic moment. Let's not take all we have for granted. Enjoy life and love freely.

  Let's take it back to the dictionary. The informal of the word is used often. "to court or woo romantically; treat with ardor or chivalrousness" (dictionary.com).

http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/romance
ro·mance n., adj. roʊˈmæns,

5. a romantic spirit, sentiment, emotion, or desire.

6. romantic character or quality.

7. a romantic affair or experience; a love affair.

9. to invent or relate romances; indulge in fanciful or extravagant stories or daydreams.

–verb (used with object)

11.

Informal .

a.

to court or woo romantically; treat with ardor or chivalrousness: He's currently romancing a very attractive widow.

–adjective

Communication

Some times I wonder if we think that we transmit information to each other. I mean seriously. We expect people to know our limitations and expectations and we don’t communicate about them 1/3 of the time. Relationships are complicated enough so why not discuss our expectations and limitations? Why is that so hard? Do we get so caught up with happy part that we put the certain issues aside and let them build up? I guess that comes with being human. We are not perfect. We were made to be perfectly imperfect. I guess it's okay as long as we notice our mistakes and learn from them. Don’t let this become a barrier in your relationship. Don’t let your emotions build a complicated situation. Have open communication. Be comfortable with sharing your thoughts, emotions, dreams and fears.

Tis the season

Tis the season to be naughty. With all the things going on in life wouldnt now be the perfect time to spice up your relationship? or do something just because. Ladies, I know we expect so much a from a man these days. We always want him to be romantic and know exactly what we want. Let's throw that out before the year is over. Go out to your favorite store (Fredericks or Victoria's Secret) and pick up a new piece to add to your lingerie. You can even add to what you already have. Like sexy netted stocking....  Surprise your honey cater to your boo. Show that special someone how much you care.  Take a dive into something new!