Get it together!

How long before you really know what you want? You may be able to pin point qualities in a person... but do you know what you really want? Do you have a general understanding? What about ideal situation?

Write it down.
be specific
be understanding

Also keep in mind what you plan to bring to the table.

Are you willing to reciprocate? What are your deal breakers?

Get it together.

happy writing people!

#loveandlight

Grateful

Often I think back my past. How past hurt/ mold me into who I am today. I can tell you that I've gone from not wanting to love, to fighting anything that leads to love. I was completely emotionally detached. I didn't welcome intimacy into my world. I realized that my world was broken. I was hiding. The more I tried to hide from love and affection, it managed to always tap on my door. The less interested I was in dating and relationships, men would come into my life ready for everything that I was against. Eventually I would open up to intimacy but I would run from my feelings. I get that we're creatures of habit. Breaking through these walls has been a major task even the jaws of life would have needed a friend.  Love and intimacy were so to foreign to me that I would stop all communication with someone, give that person space, until they'd no longer be interested in me. I repeated this process several times. Even hurting some down the line.

I've attempted a few relationship when I thought I was ready. You know how it is... 

you update your status on Facebook, add those status updates about "him", he chimes in on your status, people wonder if its true, all of a sudden you're in the spot light, everything is cute or sweet or even looks wonderful, then you start to post pictures of you two together... all for what? 

The idea of having what you think you want feels good. Being able to show the world that someone loves you feels good. Showing off a little tends to make you feel special.  My friend let me tell you that this time of social validation means nothing. This is all temporary. What you're truly doing is trying to fill a void. I'm not saying that all relationships on Facebook are seeking validation. Its just means that nothing is perfect no matter how you see it. The only people who know are the ones involved in the relationship. 

Truth is... love is patient, its Kind, It doesn't brag or boast.  

It humbles your heart and it appreciates. It puts you in a grateful state of mind and peace. 

When you find love you wont seek validation.

Trying

Ladies have you ever had a man just take your breathe away by his actions? I've tried a couple times at this relationship stuff... I think I've spent more time forcing something to work than just sitting back to let it happen. Not to say that I'm a fixer but I do want the best for people... that's just who I am. I'm a down for you no matter where you are in your life- type chick!  All that matters is that you're a good person. I know "good person" is pretty vague but having good intentions and follow through with those intentions. I've never been one to pick a man because of his financial status. That's not me.

Any way lets get back to the man taking my breathe away. That man that reminds me that Eventhiugh I love to cater to my man, my man can cater to my needs as well. 

Oh honey this is just the beginning. Will I make this work or has my emotions Fooled me again?

Either way. I'm trying. 

Always Learning

We all go through so much. Learning from our mistakes seems to be the hardest part these days. 

Sometimes I wonder if we ever truly learn.

 

Let's face it...  we point the finger, we get angry when we think of certain things, we say things that make us feel as though we've done nothing wrong and sometimes we want to be the victim. 

Truth is, none of those things are right. You can only learn when you analyze the situation and begin to wonder what you could have done differently.

 It about making sure you've done the best you can with your situation. 

We're not perfect but trust we are perfect for someone.