Love Making

LOVE MAKING

I realized that no one is talking about making love anymore. Everyone is talking about "hittin it" this way or that way but no one is getting intimate.

I mean soft passionate  kisses. Sensual touches that tantalize with each touch. Leaving good bumps all over.  Nibbles that start at the ear, leading to gentle pecks that conclude at the collar bone. 

I remember when foreplay was a necessity. It was a way to "warm up the oven" before you start cooking. 

Did we forget about the moments that matter before coital pleasure? 

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Don't get me wrong coitus is extremely pleasurable in my realm. No one  is talking about foreplay or love making. Remember in 1992, R. Kelly released  the single "Honey Love" off of his BORN INTO THE 90's album. 

He talked about laying back, relaxing, looking into your eyes... INTIMACY.

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Love makes you feel good.

It makes you want to shout it out to the world! 

Prince sang it best on Adore- "Until the end of time. I'll be there for you" 

What about Al Green when he sang " I, I'm so in love with you. Whatever you want to do. Its alright with me. Cause you make me feel so brand new. And I want to spend my life with you."

Al Green- Let's stay together

Let's bring back the kind of love making that excites both the man and woman.

Ladies dont be afraid to love on your man. He needs that special kind of attention as much as we do. 

Janet said it best with "70"s Love Groove"

"Hey baby, Jus let me do all the work" 

Let's get back to passionate unforgettable love making.

Grateful

Often I think back my past. How past hurt/ mold me into who I am today. I can tell you that I've gone from not wanting to love, to fighting anything that leads to love. I was completely emotionally detached. I didn't welcome intimacy into my world. I realized that my world was broken. I was hiding. The more I tried to hide from love and affection, it managed to always tap on my door. The less interested I was in dating and relationships, men would come into my life ready for everything that I was against. Eventually I would open up to intimacy but I would run from my feelings. I get that we're creatures of habit. Breaking through these walls has been a major task even the jaws of life would have needed a friend.  Love and intimacy were so to foreign to me that I would stop all communication with someone, give that person space, until they'd no longer be interested in me. I repeated this process several times. Even hurting some down the line.

I've attempted a few relationship when I thought I was ready. You know how it is... 

you update your status on Facebook, add those status updates about "him", he chimes in on your status, people wonder if its true, all of a sudden you're in the spot light, everything is cute or sweet or even looks wonderful, then you start to post pictures of you two together... all for what? 

The idea of having what you think you want feels good. Being able to show the world that someone loves you feels good. Showing off a little tends to make you feel special.  My friend let me tell you that this time of social validation means nothing. This is all temporary. What you're truly doing is trying to fill a void. I'm not saying that all relationships on Facebook are seeking validation. Its just means that nothing is perfect no matter how you see it. The only people who know are the ones involved in the relationship. 

Truth is... love is patient, its Kind, It doesn't brag or boast.  

It humbles your heart and it appreciates. It puts you in a grateful state of mind and peace. 

When you find love you wont seek validation.

Always Learning

We all go through so much. Learning from our mistakes seems to be the hardest part these days. 

Sometimes I wonder if we ever truly learn.

 

Let's face it...  we point the finger, we get angry when we think of certain things, we say things that make us feel as though we've done nothing wrong and sometimes we want to be the victim. 

Truth is, none of those things are right. You can only learn when you analyze the situation and begin to wonder what you could have done differently.

 It about making sure you've done the best you can with your situation. 

We're not perfect but trust we are perfect for someone. 

Taking Chances

Hello there!

I wanted to tell you about last night's conversation with a friend of mine. We were discussing wants and needs when it comes to relationships/dating. As a frustrated woman, who is looking for a potential husband in the dating world, I've realized a few things.

1. We don't always make our intentions clear 
2. Not always being clear about what we are looking for in another person
3. Not cutting ties before we've fallen

Easier said than done. Trust me I know it. I've always found it amusing how the simplest things seem so hard to do. I get that you don't want to hurt anyone's feelings but you will be respected more for the truth. 

Make your intentions clear. Let's face it. Going with the flow feels good. Sometime people just want to have fun. Having fun can create expectations. Don't look at me sideways now. We (women) get all excited over a few dates assuming the man is ready to propose his life way. It's not always like that. 

What happens if this man isn't exactly what you were looking for in the beginning? That means you weren't clear to yourself about the type of person you are looking for... This creates tension. You've already assumed he was it. You know.. "The one". 

When you finally wake up and realize that he isn't the "the one" don't be afraid to let it go... The moment you realize that some is all wrong for you is the very moment things go bad. You stop caring, start making other plans, lack if consideration. ... Trust I can go on. 

Do yourself a favor. Know what you want. Make it clear. Be vulnerable. Take some chances.