Situationship: Hanging on

I've realized that we are situationships because we are comfortable.

 Face it... its hard enough to connect with someone. No one want to go through meeting someone new. Learning their issues and deciding if you really want to deal with them. The honey moon phase will make you rush into what may seem like a good thing. 

Sometimes its only good when we're together. 

I've been strung along before. I mean I've been in love before... with someone that didn't love me as much. In fact his heart belong to someone else.   Together it felt great. Although I couldn't fill his void. He was everything... he listen, he cared, he cooked and most importantly he made time. Then I realized that time was only at night. Not to say every night was about sex (that was not the case). It was a situation where we made time to give each other affection when we both were in need. There was no label... just love.

These moments are special.. but eventually you need more about of a situation. 

Thank God for enlightenment. 

Eventually we have to let go. For sanity's sake.

As a person. You deserved to be loved. Especially from those you love. It should be unconditional. It is meant to be reciprocated.

Which is why you shouldn't lead people into thinking that you may consider being with them.
True unconditional love is about making sure your loved ones are happy. Even if its not with you. 
Its not fair to them because of your selfishness.

Sex: Are you ready?

Sex changes the dynamics of a relationship. If you move too fast into sex then it can extent the honey moon phase. Sex is emotional. You really need to know if you're ready to share your body with someone. Its too often that people seek sex to replace void in their life.
Let's face it... it makes us feel good. Well duh! It helps our bodies produce endorphins. Which can also be produce by exercising. I'ts no wonder why active people are always happy. #teamfit is a way to happiness.

Think twice about sexual intercourse. Make sure you're both ready.

Valentine's Day: Thoughts

Valentine's day coming up and I know y'all plan on getting kinky...

So lets keep it smiple.

Ladies pay attention to your man!
Fellas pay attention to your woman!

Easy right? 

Married people don't wait until valentines day!
You married the love of your life. Lots of people wait all their life to do that!

Self: Acknowledgement & Healing

I'm always promoting SELF! I mean so much comes with the self. There is self love, self healing, self promotion but mainly self love. I'm always learning about myself. I was in an abusive relationship. I haven't been able to actually open up to a relationship for many reason. I've realized that the one of the things keeping me away from a relationship, just so happens to be a defense mechanism from past hurt. I've learned that I shut down in the middle of arguments. I shy away from small disagreements because I don't want it to turn into a physical altercation. Truth is... adults debate everyday. I just so happened to have been in fear for so long that I would have never noticed that I am still in fear today. I'm writing this in tears because its.... well... truth hurts. I used to think that I'm a runner. I can run from situations but isn't that the same as shying away?  I'm trying to get to the root of the situation. I want to be that person who can communicate. If you know ME then you know I remind people to communicate their feelings. That's a little hypocritical of me.

I thought I was over it... but as they say: "Actions speak louder than words".  I know I am not perfect. Is it wrong to just want a happy healthy relationship? How do you get to that point and need so much healing?

How do you tell your partner. " Hey I was in an abusive relationship so  you can't act that way"?  You don't... the intentions are just not the same. You can only hope that person is loving and caring enough to understand and help you work on changing for the better. I'm ready to change. I've opened my heart. That's a start right?

No fear in 2015. Personal grown is a necessity to becoming a better person. 

Change: It's possible

The problem with change is that its comfortable to continue with previous patterns (ways of life). It's always easy continue with your norm but you must be willing to step out the box and the explore new possibilities.

Pay attention to your actions.
Be honest with yourself.
When you realize that you are reverting back... FIX IT!
Change is possible.
‪#‎loveandlight‬

Thinking out loud: The heart

The heart is a terrible thing to play it. The older I get the more I realized all the things my heart desires. The more I feed into physical desires the more I am hurt.

Never fear, there will always be something to learn during this process.

This is me thinking out loud.

Selena Gomez: The Heart Wants What it Wants

Making Space for the New

It's the second week of 2015. It's been such a busy week. I don't know about you but my Christmas tree is still up! I've finally taken off the lights and ornaments. If you haven't cleaned house well let this weekend be the time to get it done. Label your piles with donate and trash. This time remember to toss and donate these items. I have the tendency to just put stuff back because I'm either too busy or just too lazy. However, in 2015, I am choosing to NOT become a hoarder. 

Let's face it... We all have baggage. How we handle our baggage will determine space available for new experiences. Oh you thought I meant "clean house" in the literal sense? Well unless you have OCD, because... Well... Then that's another subject. 

You will only have one mental pile. Accept and let go.