Taking Chances

Hello there!

I wanted to tell you about last night's conversation with a friend of mine. We were discussing wants and needs when it comes to relationships/dating. As a frustrated woman, who is looking for a potential husband in the dating world, I've realized a few things.

1. We don't always make our intentions clear 
2. Not always being clear about what we are looking for in another person
3. Not cutting ties before we've fallen

Easier said than done. Trust me I know it. I've always found it amusing how the simplest things seem so hard to do. I get that you don't want to hurt anyone's feelings but you will be respected more for the truth. 

Make your intentions clear. Let's face it. Going with the flow feels good. Sometime people just want to have fun. Having fun can create expectations. Don't look at me sideways now. We (women) get all excited over a few dates assuming the man is ready to propose his life way. It's not always like that. 

What happens if this man isn't exactly what you were looking for in the beginning? That means you weren't clear to yourself about the type of person you are looking for... This creates tension. You've already assumed he was it. You know.. "The one". 

When you finally wake up and realize that he isn't the "the one" don't be afraid to let it go... The moment you realize that some is all wrong for you is the very moment things go bad. You stop caring, start making other plans, lack if consideration. ... Trust I can go on. 

Do yourself a favor. Know what you want. Make it clear. Be vulnerable. Take some chances. 

Open mind

The same defense mechanism we use to protect our ourselves could be the same reason we are hurt.

Step outside of your comfort zone. 

Be open and free to all that comes your way. 

Be vulnerable. 

A letter to love: IMY

Dear love,

After all these years I still love you the same. To some extent I'd say I'm waiting for you to finally reciprocate. I am freely open to you and all the possibilities.

You've showed me so many things about myself that I needed to know.

Love I need you to want me back. I miss that feeling I have when you play in my hair. I miss the heat that radiates from your body. Laying my head on your chest as I listen to your heartbeat.

Love I remember how you'd gaze into my eye and tell me how beautiful I am. I miss the feeling that takes over me with each embrace.

Love you are the truth. I'm grateful for the times you've come into my life.

I'm ready for you to stay.

Signed

My heart

Ariana Chiquita opps Grande

What is the world is going on with Ariana Grande these days? I really like ... but the nonsense must stop!

How can you hate Americans and live in their country? That's like a pornstar that hates porn.
Ariana I apologize for all the people that spat in your food, but dont spit in mine!

I dont want your germs! get your life together. Get out of the lime light if you dont want to be a role mode.

The apology was great but actions speak louder than words

signed,
concerned about the youth

Taking your time

I was told that I don't give guys a chance. What people don't understand is that I'm not going to jump into a situation with someone who is thinking about it. You must actually get to know someone before you can decide if you want to be with them. You don't just jump and do it.  Get to know someone with an open heart. Be vulnerable. Like they say... easy come easy go. By the time a person truly lets their guard down, fire their representative and show their true self, you're ready to let go. Had you given the time needed to grow you'd be holding on. Even after the bad time. You would sweat the small things but you'd be too busy floating with what is more important.

Give people time. Get to know someone before you make your decision. 

Be open & willing, make memories, enjoy the the most precious part of life. 

July!

Happy First day of the second half of the year!  Can I say that this year has been one hell of a roller coaster. I've learned quite a few things.

I've learned to open up and do things out of my comfort zone. Let me tell you now that there was nothing easy about it. Trust me when I say that I fought it at first...

I've learned to think before I act. This is an uneasy task when for someone that just goes with the flow. As a responsible adult we're supposed to make better choices in life. Well that's my goal. Better choices.


Let's just say that I'm grateful for it all.


#loveandlight

Single and asking for too much

Is it wrong to want a relationship? One that's not perfect. Something from the heart...

Guys want to have sex but they don't want to commit...

What Is happening these days?

Can we build and grow together? Is that even possible these days?

I'm starting to feel like is too much to ask. 

Let's buy a home together.

Let's invest together.

Let's go on vacations with friends and family.

What happened to real families? 

Being single in the shallow big city sucks!