I wanted to tell you about last night's conversation with a friend of mine. We were discussing wants and needs when it comes to relationships/dating. As a frustrated woman, who is looking for a potential husband in the dating world, I've realized a few things.
1. We don't always make our intentions clear
2. Not always being clear about what we are looking for in another person
3. Not cutting ties before we've fallen
Easier said than done. Trust me I know it. I've always found it amusing how the simplest things seem so hard to do. I get that you don't want to hurt anyone's feelings but you will be respected more for the truth.
Make your intentions clear. Let's face it. Going with the flow feels good. Sometime people just want to have fun. Having fun can create expectations. Don't look at me sideways now. We (women) get all excited over a few dates assuming the man is ready to propose his life way. It's not always like that.
What happens if this man isn't exactly what you were looking for in the beginning? That means you weren't clear to yourself about the type of person you are looking for... This creates tension. You've already assumed he was it. You know.. "The one".
When you finally wake up and realize that he isn't the "the one" don't be afraid to let it go... The moment you realize that some is all wrong for you is the very moment things go bad. You stop caring, start making other plans, lack if consideration. ... Trust I can go on.
Do yourself a favor. Know what you want. Make it clear. Be vulnerable. Take some chances.
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