Thursday, July 14, 2011
Healing time
You need it! Just like any physical wound, you must give it time to heal. So what happens during this healing time? Everything! You love learn to love yourself more. Think about how you’ve changed in your past relationship. Just face it… we all change a little bit. Even if we don’t notice. Yourself time to heal. Don’t rush in to another relationship if you have not healed form the past. Its best to give yourself time to reprioritize, gather your goals you may forgotten about and get back on track with life as you know it. Keep friends and family around. Go out and have fun!
Tuesday, February 22, 2011
a title or his time
This question pops up often. I still have yet to figure out why so many things go wrong when a woman wants that title. (Babe, Boo thang, Girlfriend, Wifey) The deal is that we are so blinded because we want a title. What does the title really mean? What does it mean to you?
I have a number 1 guy in my life. He is not my boyfriend, but a man that I would do anything for. The time we spend together is more important than how much time we spent together. When I realized that I loved this man, it drove me crazy. (We women go crazy on the wrong things!). I wanted to let him know how I felt. Then I was hoping that he is feeling the same. Maybe we could get together or get serious. Then I thought we are both in different places in our lives. His friendship means more to me than anything else. I don’t need a title. So, why I am going crazy again?
Here is the deal. I thought back on the time shared, endless conversation, all the laughter, intimate moments (not sex YOU PERVS!) and then of course I smiled. So then I realized that made me happy. What we have is good enough for me right now. Yes, I have questioned his feelings before. (Something else to drive a woman crazy) Looking back I realized that it's not necessary. Actions speak louder than words. Going back, I thought about his actions, I realized that he honestly loves/ cares for me. Of course he knows how I feel about him. (Knowing me... how could he not know?) WOMEN!
So here I go... why do I need a title? I don't. For some reason a title tends to add more pressure than necessary. I know we all want to be loved or maybe you just want to be "in the know". Maybe you are fooled by the people who pretend to be happy and post pictures all over MySpace, Facebook, Twitter. LOL. (Who doesn’t want the world to know they are happy, RIGHT?) When it is truly love... you will just know. You know when the other person is special. If your connection with a person isn't that strong or maybe you're just blinded by your friend asking when will it become "OFFICIAL" (Note to self: some friends are so miserable that question you to prove they are better. NOT YOUR FRIENDS) you just might be his #1 girl and your friends should not worry about it if you are happy. So, this guy & I are not in a place where we are ready for a relationship. Don't get me wrong I love him and would probably say yes if he proposed RIGHT NOW. Not the plan though. I love and respect him enough to accept his choices in life. The deal is love takes time and there are other things I need to focus on. I just need his love and support and in return he will get mine.
To my Ladies who are searching for a title. Go back to the time shared not the amount of time spent. Make sure the guy you with isn't just a sex partner that you occasionally go out with. (Lust can definitely cloud your vision) If you are happy then enjoy your happiness and just know that it will happen when it’s suppose to.
In the mean time, Enjoy Self Love, Respect & Honor!
I have a number 1 guy in my life. He is not my boyfriend, but a man that I would do anything for. The time we spend together is more important than how much time we spent together. When I realized that I loved this man, it drove me crazy. (We women go crazy on the wrong things!). I wanted to let him know how I felt. Then I was hoping that he is feeling the same. Maybe we could get together or get serious. Then I thought we are both in different places in our lives. His friendship means more to me than anything else. I don’t need a title. So, why I am going crazy again?
Here is the deal. I thought back on the time shared, endless conversation, all the laughter, intimate moments (not sex YOU PERVS!) and then of course I smiled. So then I realized that made me happy. What we have is good enough for me right now. Yes, I have questioned his feelings before. (Something else to drive a woman crazy) Looking back I realized that it's not necessary. Actions speak louder than words. Going back, I thought about his actions, I realized that he honestly loves/ cares for me. Of course he knows how I feel about him. (Knowing me... how could he not know?) WOMEN!
So here I go... why do I need a title? I don't. For some reason a title tends to add more pressure than necessary. I know we all want to be loved or maybe you just want to be "in the know". Maybe you are fooled by the people who pretend to be happy and post pictures all over MySpace, Facebook, Twitter. LOL. (Who doesn’t want the world to know they are happy, RIGHT?) When it is truly love... you will just know. You know when the other person is special. If your connection with a person isn't that strong or maybe you're just blinded by your friend asking when will it become "OFFICIAL" (Note to self: some friends are so miserable that question you to prove they are better. NOT YOUR FRIENDS) you just might be his #1 girl and your friends should not worry about it if you are happy. So, this guy & I are not in a place where we are ready for a relationship. Don't get me wrong I love him and would probably say yes if he proposed RIGHT NOW. Not the plan though. I love and respect him enough to accept his choices in life. The deal is love takes time and there are other things I need to focus on. I just need his love and support and in return he will get mine.
To my Ladies who are searching for a title. Go back to the time shared not the amount of time spent. Make sure the guy you with isn't just a sex partner that you occasionally go out with. (Lust can definitely cloud your vision) If you are happy then enjoy your happiness and just know that it will happen when it’s suppose to.
In the mean time, Enjoy Self Love, Respect & Honor!
Monday, February 14, 2011
Happy Valentine's Day
Happy love day folks! I wish you the best in love, life and happiness. Do something out of the norm today and express your love to everyone. We all want to be loved! So express it to everyone! Make someone feel special and remind them of how much you care.
Treat yourself to a massage! Break out the fine china, wine, fruit and cheese. The simple things are the best things in life.
Remember love day is every day but today is the day you show twice as much!
Enjoy!
Treat yourself to a massage! Break out the fine china, wine, fruit and cheese. The simple things are the best things in life.
Remember love day is every day but today is the day you show twice as much!
Enjoy!
Thursday, January 6, 2011
Your next is not your ex
This one is so complex because you’ve been hurt so many times before. It seems as if people never change! I can’t stress how much you really need to heal your open wounds before dating or entering a new relationship. The healing time is slowest phase after a break up. It’s the time you to cling to close friends and family. The time you get yourself back on track with the things you did before you got into a relationship. Get back on track with your short term goals that became long term goals. Do things that make you happy. Try not to focus on the past and work towards your future. There is so much ahead of you, so do not slow down now. Talk to people and be willing to communicate what you are going through. You would be so surprised who how many people are either going through the same thing or been there. Life is about learning. Sometimes you become apart of someone else’s learning lesson but you have to heal to understand. After the healing you learn to get over the past. Forgive that person that hurt you so much. Then you are ready to get back into the dating world and open up to new possibilities. Trust again has never been so easy. Understand that your next is not your ex, he or she could be the next best thing. I believe there is someone for everyone. Just have faith and think about the wonderful possibilities love can bring.
Happy New Year!
I hope you all had a wonderful new year! I wish you all the best in life, love, health and wealth for the new year. Life is precious and not promised. Continue to enjoy the little things and the people around you.
Happy 2011!
Happy 2011!
Monday, December 27, 2010
Dont be afraid to move on
Are you holding on to the past? I know we are only human but I believe that we deserve to be happy. We tend to hold on to things, situations and relationships. Wouldn’t you let go if you knew that you had to let go of something because in order to received something better? But because we don’t know we allow fear to play a big role in our decisions.
We hold on possession, heirlooms, pictures and all those things that put us in the special place. This is great as long as you don’t visit that special place too often. You don’t want this to become a habit (I’ve totally been there). I know we can be creatures of habit but it doesn’t have to be that way. Keep these special items in safe places. I tend to revisit these things when I’m spring cleaning or maybe I’ve just found them on accident.
Are your past or current situations blocking you from receiving your blessings? We go through changes because this is how we are molded. Past and current situations are what make us the person we are today. Don’t be afraid to voice your opinion and thoughts. Don’t hold on but learn from these situations. The lesson that you learn will help determine how to move on from your situation.
Are you holding on by a string with your relationship? Are you constantly asking yourself why and how? Have you just become comfortable with your situation? You may feel defeated or like you have no other place where you want to share your feelings. This is totally an unhealthy situation. You are created a path of unhappiness. If you’ve tried all that you can to keep your relationship anew you have to look at the pros and cons. Not just for you but for your partner too. Relationship are a too way street. Sometimes we hold on because we don’t want to hurt the other person. I think it’s a little too late to think this way because you both are already suffering. We don't realize that we're holding on for the wrong reasons. At this pont it's not love anymore. It's just comfortable and easy.
Learn that its okay to let go. Let go. Learn to love freely. Learn to give love freely. Self love respect and honor. When you love yourself everything else will fall into place.
We hold on possession, heirlooms, pictures and all those things that put us in the special place. This is great as long as you don’t visit that special place too often. You don’t want this to become a habit (I’ve totally been there). I know we can be creatures of habit but it doesn’t have to be that way. Keep these special items in safe places. I tend to revisit these things when I’m spring cleaning or maybe I’ve just found them on accident.
Are your past or current situations blocking you from receiving your blessings? We go through changes because this is how we are molded. Past and current situations are what make us the person we are today. Don’t be afraid to voice your opinion and thoughts. Don’t hold on but learn from these situations. The lesson that you learn will help determine how to move on from your situation.
Are you holding on by a string with your relationship? Are you constantly asking yourself why and how? Have you just become comfortable with your situation? You may feel defeated or like you have no other place where you want to share your feelings. This is totally an unhealthy situation. You are created a path of unhappiness. If you’ve tried all that you can to keep your relationship anew you have to look at the pros and cons. Not just for you but for your partner too. Relationship are a too way street. Sometimes we hold on because we don’t want to hurt the other person. I think it’s a little too late to think this way because you both are already suffering. We don't realize that we're holding on for the wrong reasons. At this pont it's not love anymore. It's just comfortable and easy.
Learn that its okay to let go. Let go. Learn to love freely. Learn to give love freely. Self love respect and honor. When you love yourself everything else will fall into place.
A legend has passed away.
Teena Marie reported dead on December 26, 2010, at 54 years young. Her music touched the hearts of R&B lovers all over. The woman can SANG! She has a powerful yet soulful voice. The first Teena song I heard was “Square Biz” and as I got older I listened to other hits and became a fan. Her music will definitely live on.
R.I.P Lady T
Below are some of my favorite Teena songs that I thought I’d share.
R.I.P Lady T
Below are some of my favorite Teena songs that I thought I’d share.
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